Bait & Switch by Megan L. Hunter

The most common complaint about high-conflict relationships is the extraordinary salesmanship prior to the marriage or moving in together, and the switch to chaos almost immediately after. This book is an inside look at "his" thoughts and "her" thoughts; the "Complicated Operating System" that drives the most difficult of difficult people; their conscious and unconscious reactions and interactions, and help for those who stay in the relationship. If your fairytale romance suddenly transformed into relationship chaos and you are bewildered with how the person of your dreams has morphed into someone you barely recognize—displaying hostile, unpredictable behavior that leaves you exhausted and confused--this book will hep make sense of it. If your relationship has deteriorated into one high-conflict scenario after another, and you’re trying to decide whether you should dig deep and try to make it work or cut your losses and exit safely, this straight-talking book has the answers you need. In Bait & Switch, relationship expert Megan Hunter provides an inside view of complicated relationships and the "Complicated Operating System". She offers practical strategies to help real couples deal with the behavior and ensuing conflict. Hunter explores the interactions, conscious and unconscious, that occur in a bait and switch relationship—both during the convincing “sales pitch” given before the partners commit to each other through marriage or moving into together and then immediately after, when the switch has been thrown and distressing behaviors are swiftly revealed—and recommends strategies for changing these dynamics. You’ll learn about the brain science behind this behavior, take tests to determine exactly what kind of relationship you’re dealing with, and develop new skills to help you minimize and contain the conflict in your relationship. In short, this book offers hope to stop the swirling chaos, whether you ultimately decide to stay or leave.