Don't Rescue the Woman - Five Ways Men Ruin Their Lives with Women is a self-help book for men and women in troubled relationships, or who continue to find themselves in failing relationships. "Five Ways" outlines five "relationship styles" that men have with women that commonly lead to destruction and even violence in the relationship: Rescuing, Blaming, Fantasizing, Being Addicted to Love or Sex, and finally Being Obsessed with Winning. The book continues to explore the roots of these problems and offers men five "Essential Qualities" that we histortically see in men we consider "heroes" and "leaders". These Five Essential Qualities are: Awareness, Compassion, Strength, Dignity and Courage. Focussing on these essential qualities can help men overcome the five ruinous relationship styles and find a partner with similar qualities in their life. Five Ways Men Ruin Their Lives with Women is a must read book for men and women seeking to rebuild shattered men in their life. Aimed at men, the book is thoughtful reading for both men and women who want to avoid destructive and potentially violent relatinships in their lives, and wish to find a partner who exhibits the positive qualities they would like to develop in their own being.